Tell me if you've heard this story before. Girl gets a job
and works hard. Makes money and decides to buy nice things. One nice thing
turns into many nice things. Many nice things turn into bigger nice things. Bigger
nice things turn into credit card debt. Girl gets a better paying job,
continues to work hard, continues to spend and repeats the cycle. Man, I should
have listened to my parents (shhh, don’t tell them I said that).
This summer I came face to face with my credit card debt. My
10 year old car with 190,000+ miles on it was making a new awful sound and
coupled with the check engine light that had been on for about 6 months, I
thought it was time to buy a new car. But a lot had changed in 10 years, gone
was that girl who bought her first car and had stellar credit. Now stood a
woman who stared at her credit score in disbelief, sure some of the numbers
were the same but the number order wasn't. It was a far cry from what it once
was. So my journey to clean up my credit
began.
Enter the new car dilemma. So here’s the thing, creating a
budget isn't hard; it’s following it that trips me up. I've always justified
that the reason I could buy myself nice things was because I worked hard. While
that’s true in some respects, in others it’s not. What I failed to take into
consideration was my five, ten, fifteen year plan (my mom would be so proud to
read about me writing about this now). It was time I started thinking of future Shadi.
I started saving three months before I bought my new car. I
budgeted and cut unnecessary spending. I didn't need that new purse or shoes. No
more Starbucks, I could drink coffee at home or from work. Two ply toilet paper instead of three. I asked myself three
questions, do I need it? Why do I need it? Am I sure I can’t live without it? The
formula wasn't perfect and on occasion I spent money even when I shouldn't
have, but I saved enough for a down payment.
While I saved, I started cleaning up my credit. I printed detailed copies from all three
credit unions and began calling banks, writing letters and getting on payment
plans. And, I also experienced three
stages of grief while cleaning up my credit. And here's the the thing - no one ever talks about the emotions you experience when you have to clean up your credit. Sure you can do any Google search and find article after article on how to clean up your credit. But the emotional part is never even hinted at and let me tell you, calling banks and having to explain yourself and your financial situations to corporations that are only interested in making a profit can be an extremely demoralizing experience. So anyway, without further delay, here are the top three emotions I felt when I started cleaning up my credit.
- Anger – I realized what a scam credit scores are. I became enraged that my 28 year old self was being held accountable for what my 24 year old self did. Hello, I’m a changed person! Haven’t they seen my budget! My 24 year old self was so stupid (just kidding, you were awesome!).
- Depression – I began to think there’s was no hope. There is no way I can clean up my credit enough to get that good interest rate. Now I’ll get ripped at the car dealership and have to pay twice as much for my car in interest.
- Acceptance – I realized that I had to accept the system. Bad credit didn't define me. I am not the only one with bad credit. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am not a bad person for having bad credit. As Lily Allen put it in Everything's just Wonderful, “Well it’s very funny, cause I got your fucking money and I’m never gonna get it because of my bad credit. Oh well I guess I mustn't grumble, I suppose that just the way the cookie crumbles.”
I was able to get my new car with a low interest rate thanks
to the kindness of my parents and an honest dealership. But the lessons from this experience are not lost on me. I continue to budget, clean up my credit and think about future Shadi
all the time. Next up, Roth IRAs and a new purse (whaaaaat, I work hard!). ;)